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How to Be Happy in Your Marriage When the Excitement Goes AWOL!

Relationship Problems But What If He Doesn’t Cheat?

“As long as he doesn’t cheat on me, we’ll be fine…”

I remember saying this statement many times prior to getting married.

To me adultery would be the only deal breaker because I had seen so many marriages end with broken lives and hurt feelings as a result of infidelity.

As far as I know, my husband has been faithful to me, but I never imagined all the other things we would experience that would leave me often feeling hurt, confused, frustrated, and ready to walk away from my marriage. Foreclosure, car repossession, unemployment, and prostate cancer, to name a few.


Is This All There is To My Marriage?

Your marriage may never be hit with something as devastating as cancer, foreclosure, or unemployment. 

But what happens when the euphoria of your newlywed phase wears off, and the reality of life sets in?

Woman Who Doesn't KnowI have often found myself asking the question, “What can I do to be happy in my marriage?”

Have you ever said this to God or yourself?

I have. But I have discovered the answer to this question, and this is why Sheila Wray Gregoire’s book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage has helped me.


The Answer…

In Sheila’s book, Thought #3 truly resonated with my heart and answered the question. It’s called: “My Husband Was Not Put on This Earth to Make Me Happy.”

The one word that answers the question: “What can I do to be happy in my marriage?” is “Expectations.”

Sheila reflects on how the men in her life, including her father and stepfather, (who were supposed to protect her during her childhood), left her.

In addition, she dealt with a series of failed relationships in both high school and college.

Despite these misfortunes, Sheila refused to give up on love. And she created high expectations that she and her husband would live happily ever after – because she felt she deserved it.

Like Sheila, I felt the same way after a series of unhealthy relationships in middle and high school which left me angry, bitter, and resentful towards men in general.


Is My Husband My Savior?

Eventually I met my husband Dexter and after 3 ½ years of courtship, I had finally found someone who I could trust and who I felt loved me for who I was, and not what I could give him.

I actually believed that marrying Dexter would solve all of my problems.

As a result, I expected Dexter to become my superhero and rescue me from what all the other “evil” men had done to me in my past.

In fact, during the earlier years of our marriage, I often put too much pressure on my husband to do and be everything I wanted.

And although he tried, he couldn’t do it.


Because he’s human – just like me!


“I’ll Be Happy When My Husband ________.” (Fill in the Blank)

Maybe you’re like I was in the earlier years of my marriage and you’re thinking, “I’ll be happy when my husband _________.”

You’re waiting for that “great big event” to change the climate of your marriage relationship.

Or maybe you’ve been told by well-meaning Christian women, “Baby, if you’d pray more, give more, or do more, your husband will change…”

But what if God is waiting for you to change?

I say this because it’s possible that your husband may never change.

Or at least he may not change until you do.

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The Ultimate Recipe on How to Be Happy in Your Marriage

Are you going to base your happiness on what your husband chooses to do…or not do?

With this in mind, let’s consider how you can change to achieve the happiness, (or as Sheila refers to it), the joy and contentment that God says you can experience in your marriage…whether your husband changes or not.

The first thing Sheila suggests is to seek God wholeheartedly.

While this is a loaded answer, Sheila’s book offers some concrete answers that will help you to shift from expecting your husband to make you happy to learning how to focus on joy through your relationship with Jesus Christ.

Sheila shows you how to be happy and express gratitude, even when you don’t have the fairy tale marriage you expected.

Because after all, marriage is not about our happiness.

It’s more about us becoming more like Christ and fulfilling His purpose for our lives.

Your marriage just happens to be an important, but small part of this purpose!

Weekend to Remember Marriage Conference BOGO Coming August 31st!

Guess What?

The Williamsburg Weekend to Remember Marriage Conference is quickly approaching! (November 20th – 22nd, the weekend before Thanksgiving)

To help you, we want to offer the BOGO (Buy One Get One Free) offer. This means you can register both you and your husband for only 1/2 price.

This BOGO event starts next week – Monday August 31st and ends Monday September 14th, so don’t miss this opportunity.

If your marriage relationship needs help, a little encouragement, or even a little excitement.

If you’re not in the Hampton Roads, VA area, you can still take advantage of this offer and attend a Weekend to Remember event where you live!

For more information on the Weekend to Remember, Click Here


Coming Soon – How to Overcome a Sexless Marriage, Avoid Adultery, & Love Your Husband Again!

Marriage takes work, but what happens when your hard work is still not good enough?

In this short video, Tiffany Godfrey offers the ultimate remedy to your marriage problems, sexless marriage, and the temptation you face to cheat on your husband.

In this resource we will discuss:
– The relationship between lace and marriage
– The lies women believe about their marriage, (and believe me there are a lot!)
– The lovers women can have without even touching or kissing them
– The
military wife who gets caught up with another man while her husband is deployed

– Why women don’t like having sex…

– How to get your sex life back on track, and why bringing porn into your marriage will  cause your marriage to crash and burn quickly!
– How to recognize when you, (not your husband) is caught up in adultery
– How to avoid adultery when it comes knocking at your door
And guess what,
it’s FREE! No cost to you!

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Sexless Marriage, Adultery, Scandals, & Other Mistakes Married Women Make!

As married women, we can often be guilty of all types of mistakes including adultery, a sexless marriage, scandals, money mismanagement, anger, etc. Find out how you can avoid these mistakes and improve your marriage. Watch this video!

Save Your Marriage Relationship – $.99 Kindle Download Special

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Weekend to Remember 2015 Williamsburg VA for Married & Engaged Couples

The Weekend to Remember Event will be coming to the Williamsburg Lodge in Williamsburg, VA November 20-22, 2015. If you are married or engaged, you can’t miss this event. Watch the video below for more details!

What is Love? Marriage Relationships: Fix It

In most marriage relationships, whether they are Christian or not, there is often a temptation for both the wife and the husband. For the woman, it’s the temptation to offer marriage tips to our husbands for becoming a better lover, parent, or helper. This often provokes anger in the heart of our husbands. In other words, we have a tendency to nag!

But on the part of the man, it’s not always adultery. But it’s the temptation to fix something our situations when we just want heartfelt communication and a man who hears our heart. Watch this video to see if this marriage relationship is similar to yours and have a laugh. Please comment and share this post with others.

New Kindle Book on a Sexless Marriage, Money Problems, & Adultery

If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’re having money problems, or you’re being tempted to commit adultery, this book is a must read for you. My new book, “The Top 12 Mistakes Married Women Make…And How to Avoid Them!” is available now for only $0.99! Click Here to get your copy today. 

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Your Marriage & the Love Story Between Lebron James and the Cavs

This video blog post details the journey of basketball superstar, Lebron James and his love story with the Cleveland Cavs. As a married woman, you can relate to this NBA story. Lebron’s story can teach three things that every married woman can give to her husband and marriage…