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Laying It Down…But Not Giving It Up!

A few months ago, I made a major change in my plans, based on what I believe was God’s request. His request? “Lay it Down.”

For the past two years, I have been working on this CommittedWife.com site with the ultimate goal of helping women to see how important it is to focus on God and follow His lead on how to work at improving their marriages. I’ve written and spoken on communication, sex, finances, love, and many other topics. I also believe that my words and my example have set the stage for other women (through social media, webinars, e-mails, etc.), on how they should treat their husbands. But, for the last few months my commitment to my husband has been tested on a larger scale.

God impressed upon my heart to focus on helping my husband Dexter with his leadership training business. This meant I needed to pull away from CommittedWife.com to do whatever Dexter needed me to do. The funny thing is my husband’s love language is Acts of Service, so this would become an opportunity to demonstrate my love, respect, and committment for him and the institution of marriage.

What did this mean for me and CommittedWife.com? Well, of course I was a little irritated for many reasons:

I didn’t want to give up my dream of writing articles, devotionals, and other items for women who were hungry to improve their marriages.

I had worked with Dexter in the past and it didn’t work as expected.

I wanted to focus on marriage, not leadership!

But, because I’ve tried to do things on my own in the past only to face setback after setback, only to find myself frustrated, upset, and a bit of a failure, I chose to say yes to God. Not only that, I’ve come to the point that I want God’s plan to be my top priority in everything, especially my marriage. After some reluctance, I made the decision to pull away somewhat from CommittedWife and help my husband to pursue his dream. You may be wondering: Why would she do that?

For one, I know my husband has my has my best interest at heart. As I work to please him, he will do the same for me when my season comes.

God will be pleased with my sacrifice and He will not leave me or forsake me.

I won’t be at peace until I do what God tells me to do.

The climate of my marriage depended on my decision to help my husband.

Since I’ve made that decision, I’ve been at peace. I’m doing the social media marketing for my husband’s organization, Leadership & Sales Academy. And I haven’t fully given up CommittedWife.com. I’m just doing things a little differently. The main focus for now will be to use this blog to chronicle how I am learning to support my husband in his pursuits.

Surprisingly, I am enjoying what I do for my husband. I’m still able to pursue my passion of writing and I really believe in leadership because it’s the root of every organization, business, community, church, etc. Also, I feel good because I’m not only telling you to support your husband, but I’m doing it myself.

Now let me ask you: Has God told you to lay down or adjust your dream in order to help your husband? Are you having a hard time doing it? Is there a way you can still pursue your dream on a smaller scale for now in order to help your husband?  Please leave your comments. I’d love to hear from you because you can help other women to save their marriages!