Gay Marriage: What Can We Do About It?

I’m sure by now you are very aware that President Obama has taken an official stand to support gay marriage. Wow! I’m surprised and disappointed, but I realize that our President is not God, nor is he perfect. I believe this situation is a wake up call for us as Christians and as wives. While I believe that we should love everyone, I don’t support gay marriage. Some might say, “Well, Tiffany, you know the times are changing…” And my response would be, “Yes, times are changing, but my God is the same yesterday, today, and forevermore, which means that His agenda for marriage is still the same: one man and one woman,” (Hebrews 13:8; Ephesians 5:31)

I’m not even into politics, but when the topic of marriage came up, I became a little more in tune to what has been taking place in the political arena, as it refers to holy matrimony.

Now to my original question, (found in the title), “What can we do about gay marriage?” For those of us who take a strong stand for the institution of marriage between one man and one woman, the best thing we can do as Christian wives is to set the right example. My sister, you never know who could be watching you. Maybe some gay man or gay woman could be wondering, “What is Christian marriage?” or “What is marriage to the opposite sex really like?”  Maybe he/she has never seen a godly example of a marriage. Here’s where you come in. With all the hustle and bustle of life with your husband, your kids, work, home, ministry, etc. the best thing you can do to stand against gay marriage is to stand up for your own marriage by loving, respecting, and honoring your husband.

If you really want to stand against gay marriage, I would suggest finding out what your husband’s love language is. It’s either:

  • Words of Affirmation – complimenting and encouraging your husband on what he does right. 
  • Quality Time – being in your husband’s presence and giving him your undivided attention.
  • Receiving Gifts – giving him gifts that are significant to him (they don’t need to be expensive).
  • Acts of Service – doing things for your husband that will help ease the his responsibilities.
  • Physical Touch – showering your husband with hugs, touches, kisses, pats, holding hands, etc.

If you’re not sure what your husband’s love language is, take some time to listen to his desires and observe him. Test the languages to see which one he responds best to. For instance, my husband’s love language is acts of service and when I do things for him it eases the burden of his responsibilities and it helps him to feel loved. He in turn reaches out to me in my love language which is physical touch.

The world needs to see that God’s plan for marriage still works and is the RIGHT plan and the ONLY plan, (Matthew 5:16). So many times we fuss about homosexuality, but we must also ask ourselves if we’re demonstrating that our marriages really works.

Anyway, I believe the best way for us to take a stand for marriage is not to complain, bully homosexuals, picket the White House, or even ignore the issue. The best way we can stand against gay marriage is to show the world that marriage between ONE MAN and ONE WOMAN works because it’s God’s way!

Please leave your comments. Tell us about how you can love your husband by communicating with him in his love language. We want to hear from you!

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  1. Toni says:

    Bless you for your stand and for this article. I was having a hard time with having something to say to people who say times are changing. Its so true….God never changes.

    • Tiffany, The Committed Wife says:

      Thanks for your honesty, Toni. A lot of times it can be a sticky situation when discussing homosexuality with some people,even with Christians who believe it’s okay. But one thing one thing I’ve learned to do is remain calm because the enemy would love to get us frustrated and angry when dealing with people so they can blame us for being mean and unloving, on top of our stand against homosexuality. The only thing you can do is stand on what you know and then understand that you can agree to disagree with people, which means that you may have to change subject. As long as you stand and set the example, that’s all that matters. Be encouraged and keep standing for righteousness. 🙂

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  2. Liza says:

    I am AGAINST gay marriage and I don’t really care what anyone thinks about it! I just don’t understand why Christians are being attacked for it. We don’t hate gays! We just don’t agree with their lifestyle. I have quite a few family members that are gay. I love them just the same. I Pray for them and any chance I get I share the gospel with them. Jesus died and rose for ALL humanity! He also expects for us not only to read his word, but obey it! We all will face judgement one day. Disagreeing with something or someone is NOT judging. We as christians didn’t write the word, we simply try our best to live it!

    • adminwife says:

      Hi Liza:

      Thanks for your comment. You are so right. God’s word is what it is. We can’t change that. The best thing we can do is love the people, but dislike the lifestyle. Afterall, that’s what God does.

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