In an earlier post, I asked: What would the other woman say if you asked her “Why do men cheat?”
While some men will cheat no matter what their wives do, there are some ways you can prevent the scandal of infidelity from invading your marriage.
I believe when you know why men cheat, you can do your part to prevent your husband from straying.
I think the other woman would say there are at least three things you can do to stop your husband from leaving you and going to her. Of course prayer is the very first thing, but I’m sure you’ve probably been doing this.
But after praying, God wants you to take action.
Below you’ll find the 3 action steps you can take to prevent infidelity from hitting your marriage:
1. Avoid a Sexless Marriage – most men are driven by sex. Marriage is the only relationship in which God allows (and requires) sex to occur. If you’re married, then make sex a major priority.
2. Look Good to Your Husband on a Consistent Basis. For whatever reason God wired men to love the beauty of a woman. They’re drawn to it and it excites them. In fact, it’s probably the first thing that attracted your husband to you. If it was, he hasn’t changed. He still wants you to look beautiful. Yes, it may take a little more time and effort on your part to look good, but if you want your husband’s undivided attention, do your part to look good for him on a consistent basis.
3. Give Him Respect, Even if He Doesn’t Deserve It! Sometimes we wonder why our husbands don’t talk. Let me ask you a question: When you talk, do you talk to or do you talk at your husband?
A lot of times our husbands retreat into a mental cell because they don’t feel respected within the marriage relationship.
For many years, without really knowing it, I disrespected my husband.
Often times I would make sarcastic remarks, roll my eyes, and suck my teeth at him when I didn’t agree with him on certain issues. At times, I would even dismiss some of his comments as trivial. As a result, my husband would shut down and refuse to talk. (Even now at times I find myself doing it until I catch myself. Then I quickly apologize.)
But since I’ve been reading a book called, Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs, I’ve gained a better understanding of how much my husband needs respect.
When I don’t give my husband respect, I leave a huge gap for the enemy to have a field day in our marriage.
Yes, my husband has a responsibility to love me, but my responsibility is not to make him love me.
I need to do my part to respect him, whether I think he deserves it or not. God will deal with my husband and help him do his part to love me.
Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needshas changed my life and as a result, my willingness to show respect to my husband has paved the way for him to love me more. And he has!
I want you to join me on my journey to giving respect to my husband.
While nothing in marriage is guaranteed, (and in some cases men will cheat no matter what), as a Christian woman you can do your part to prevent adultery from hitting your marriage.
When you make your marriage a priority and give passionate sex, look good, and show respect to your husband on a consistent basis, it sends the message to your husband that you love him and you want the marriage to work. It also can pave the road for your husband to come home every night and give you his undivided attention instead of running to the arms of “the other woman.”
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